hey john. me again. just linked over to aldon’s post and it was definitely powerful. his honesty was humbling and it does definitely put a face on what is happening right now. sad but true…

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John, just returned from reading that post. Publically expressing these types of ordeals is very important. Blogging, to me, is all about sharing information, and right now we are facing one of the biggest financial challenges most of us have ever witnessed in our livetimes.

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John (273 comments) reply on September 18th, 2008 9:39 pm:

“right now we are facing one of the biggest financial challenges most of us have ever witnessed in our livetimes.”

Absolutely, and it doesn’t appear to be over yet. Hold on, it’s going to be a bumpy ride!

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John,

Thank you for linking for my post and your kind words. I also want to thank the people who commented on my blog, as well as on yours for their kind words.

It has been quite an ordeal, and it is not over yet, although I want to reassure people that my family and I are doing okay and getting through things.

I really liked Mike’s comment about the importance of publicly talking about these types of ordeals. It is important in many ways. One is in helping other people know that they are not alone. There is always some sort of shame that accompanies bankruptcy and the feelings of failure that go with it. There is always second guessing. If I had put the house on the market earlier, if I had of said things a little bit differently when speaking with a potential client, if….

Yet when you find other people who have had similar struggles, it gives you the strength and courage to keep pressing on. When you talk publicly about them, yourself, they lose some of their powers over you.

I hope to write much more about this over the coming weeks and months. Perhaps, I’ll even write a semi-autobiographical novel about it this year for National Novel Writing Month.

With that, let me share one other story. I haven’t written this elsewhere yet, but I will. So, here is the sneak preview:

The day of the foreclosure, I drove down to the auction. It was a Saturday morning. My wife and daughter stayed at home. I had all kinds of feelings about seeing a house that I had lived in and loved for fifteen years being sold at foreclosure. As I left, everyone could feel the tension. My six year old knew something was wrong. I kissed her and said I’d only be gone for a little while. I would come home and we would go swimming in the afternoon.

Some of that, I said to reassure her. Some of that I said to reassure my wife, and some of it, I said to reassure myself. I knew I would make it through the horrible event and get back home. Yet I needed to say it, to convince myself, as much as anything else.

It was an unreal drive down to the foreclosure auction, and the auction went in a way that was completely unexpected. But, that is another story.

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John (273 comments) reply on September 18th, 2008 9:51 pm:

You’re welcome Aldon. I am glad to hear you and your family are getting through things. Your writings have helped to shed some light on a side of the story that otherwise go untold. Thanks for having the courage to share such a personal story.

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i really happy while i am visit in your site, because i can find some helpfull article to me.and my thanks is always for you.

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wow! That is a really eye opening story and one that is probably happening to many people right now. It really puts a face to the crisis.

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hi john!
amazing post!

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